Triple point theory of love.

I have to say a weatherbeaten yet healthy relationship will have experienced all kinds of love during its course and emerge stronger, not worn out.Needless to say the eventuality we should all aim for in our relationships is consummate love.A combination of intimacy, passion and commitment.

Intimacy : You should be able to talk freely with your partner about everything, not feeling ashamed or embarassed to admit anything.This includes your feelings at any given point of time whether positive or negative.Also the listening partner should be able to reciprocate with understanding, objectivity and compassion, not antagonism or defensiveness. This is usually near impossible to achieve in the earlier stages of a relationship, but in a healthy relationship, these issues resolve themselves with time.Knowing each other completely should result in greater respect for each other , not disdain, disappointment or contempt.So be wary of telling too many lies and fibs in the earlier stages of the relationship, you will have to let your guard down eventually.True intimacy also includes being physically unashamed in his/her presence.Be careful of being excessively comfortable though, lest familiarity breed contempt.Shut that door when you go to the loo! :D


Passion : This doesn't neccessarily point towards the physical aspect of a relationship.Its about taking delight in your relationship as well as in your partner.You should be able to see something special in your partner regardless of how long you've been together.Rejoice in his/her talents and success.celebrate the unique way he or she is beautiful, special,the twinkle in his eyes, the sparkle in her smile, the warmth of his embrace, the splendor of her curves.Her creativity, his drive.The way she reminds you to take your medicine on time, the way he opens doors for you.Don't ever let it get old.

Commitment : Know within your heart that this is the best there'll ever be and have peace and tranquility in the tender confines of your relationship. It is not worth being in a relationship which has no future, which leaves you teetering on the edge in jitters. Voice your commitment.Being in a long term relationship but dodging marriage/commitment is cruelty towards your partner.Sometimes commitment suffers due to certain factors such as in a long distance relationship, a communication gap can occur. Guard against it by talking to each other frequently, meeting frequently and also hearing out what your partner has to say (intimacy)
Be in a relationship for the right reasons,if and when YOU are ready.